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Hi Sam I am on my period right now and it is horrible I live with my sister and boyfriend because my mum and dad are both dead and she doesn't really have time for me as she is having a baby soon I I need help should I ask before the baby is born because it is girly stuff I need to talk to so should I talk to her or someone on child line chat but when I go to wait it takes for ever I am always was waiting for hours and hours and no one pick up what should I do
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Hello there,

Talking to someone about periods can be difficult, especially when it’s happening for the first time. You might not be sure about what you can use or how you can get the right sanitary products but there are a number of people you could talk to about periods. Finding the person you are most comfortable with is important.

Whenever the people looking after you seem distracted, it can make it harder to feel like you can talk to them. Having a baby is a big change but it doesn’t mean your sister shouldn’t have time for you. It’s okay for you to talk about this with her because it’s really important to you at the moment.

If you don’t feel like you want to talk to your sister then there could be other people you could ask. School nurses usually have the kind of products you need when you’re stuck, or at least will be able to help you get tampons or sanitary pads.

There’s no need to be ashamed or embarrassed about asking someone at school or other relatives you trust about this – it’s something the majority of women go through. Most women will probably be happy to help. You can also talk to a counsellor at ChildLine of course and they would be happy to listen to you and offer you advice and support.

Take care,

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