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Hi there,
When a parent is diagnosed with an illness it can be difficult to know how to cope or what to do next. Its okay to need some support with this because it can be hard to cope alone. You might feel you dont want to put pressure on someone whos sick, but many parents who are ill still want to be involved in their childrens lives. They may really want to hear how their children are feeling. It's important that you can have this conversation.
Its understandable that youre going through a variety of emotions. Feeling numb and wanting to cry, but also feeling like you cant. Crying is a natural response to your emotions, and sometimes crying can help let your feelings out. Crying can stop things building up too much. Crying is nothing to be ashamed or scared of. And its important for you to know that you don't have to deal with your emotions alone.
Perhaps you can think about what itd be like to talk to your dad. You could share how both of you are feeling. Although things are difficult and changing, it can be helpful to look at realistic ways of having a normal family life as well.
Its important to know that talking to your teacher isnt begging for sympathy. Teachers are there to support you. They can help you with how youre feeling as well as school work. It might help to think about when might be best to talk to her, and whether you'd find it easier to talk face to face or write her a letter about how difficult you're finding things at the moment.
Riprap is a great website for young people whose parents have cancer. It has lots of advice, information, and other young people sharing their experiences. You might find that there are people going through a similar experience to yours.
If you'd like to, you'd be very welcome to talk to a counsellor.
Take care,
Sam
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