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finally free from abusive parents but what next??

three years ago i moved out of my physically abusive fathers and into my mums however thimgs wernt great there either she neglected me was physically violent and emotionaly abusive i have now been removed from her care and am sleeping on a sofa living out of bags i feel so unwanted :(

what happens next? where do i go?

Ask Sam


Hi there,

Thank you so much for writing to me and explaining what has happened to you over the last few years. I am glad that you felt able to be so open and honest with me about your situation. What happened to you when you lived with your parents was wrong, it should not have happened but it was not your fault. You should have been able to trust your parents to keep you safe and they let you down.

It seems that at the moment you are feeling a bit lost. You haven't mentioned in your letter how old you are and depending on your age there will be different types of support available. It could help to talk about these options, and how you're feeling with a ChildLine counsellor. They will support you to look through what options are available to you now and what you'd like to do next. As well as phoning 0800 1111 (which is free), you can sign up for an account and use the 1-2-1 online chat or send an email from your ChildLine Locker.

Other young people have told us that seeking support through our online community also helps and you can do this by checking out the message boards.

It is also important to be safe and if at anytime you feel that you are in danger then you can contact 999 for help. You don't have to go through this alone.

Take care,


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