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too much going on...

I have prelim exams in one week and im struggling to revise. There is no place quiet or relaxing for me to go. I have three little sisters who like to annoy me so when i tell them to leave me so i can study they come in my room and start shouting and stuff. it gets me so upset and angry that i lose it with them which gets me into a bad mood and then i cant revise properly. also my parents are always getting on at me for not revising enough so when i tell them how i cant they get angry with me.. what do i do?
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Thanks for writing in. Lots of young people find it stressful revising for exams, but this can be made especially hard if you’re not able to find a space where you can concentrate and have some quiet time.

From what you’ve described, it sounds like home can feel quite chaotic with your three little sisters always coming into your room and shouting stuff. It’s understandable this makes you feel upset and angry. It’s not fair that you’re not being given the space where you can focus on your revision.

You’ve also said your parents are always getting on at you for not revising enough. It sounds like you’re not feeling very supported at home at the moment. It sounds like you’ve tried telling them how you can’t revise but they seem to get angry with you, which I imagine makes you feel even more upset afterwards.

I wondered about a different way you could tell them what you are going through. Sometimes writing down what you want to say can help people to get more of an understanding of how you really feel. I’m not sure how old your little sisters are, but another idea might be to talk to them about making a deal so that you can get some time to yourself and where they agree not to come into your room for a set amount of time.

You could suggest that if they left you alone for a little while, such as an hour, they could then come into your room for 5 minutes and then you could continue again afterwards. It can also be good to have regular breaks when revising. It would also be helpful if your parents could support you in this too. I also wondered whether there was maybe somewhere quiet in school like a library where you could find space to revise.

We have some more information about homework and revision and also exam stress which could be good for you to check out.

I would also encourage you to talk through this some more with one of the ChildLine counsellors directly. This might give you more of a chance to talk through what other options you might find helpful. You can call on 0800 1111 (free from any phone), log on for a 1-2-1 online chat, or send an email.

No matter how you’re feeling, this is not something you have to go through on your own. ChildLine is here for you.

Good luck and take care,

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