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Teacher at school

I am not sure how to deal with a teacher at school - They treat me a lot differently to other students (tries to see me / get me to go and see them in all my study lessons, waits for me between lessons, has tried to speak to me outside of school times etc.) and as much as they are a good teacher and nice person I'm feeling uncomfrotable with this extra attention. Even my friends are noticing and they are asking me why it's like this and I don't know. Of course I want to tell them to treat me normally but I don't know what the best way to do so would be.

Please help.

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Hi there,

Sometimes someone who’s there to help us might try and be involved as much as possible. This can be a good thing, but sometimes it can be too much. It’s always okay to say something if you feel uncomfortable. There are boundaries between a teacher and a pupil. So if they are not respecting this – like when they contact you outside of school – then it’s all the more reason to tell someone.

It can be difficult to feel that you are being treated differently to other classmates. Some people love attention, however most of us feel uncomfortable when the spotlight is turned on us. It’s okay to talk to someone about how you feel.

Deciding who to talk to about this is important. If you feel comfortable and confident talking to your teacher directly then you could try and tell them how you feel about it. But if you don’t feel able to do this then you could tell someone else, like another teacher or someone at home.

If you're not sure what to say, you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor to practise what you’ll say first. You may also find that other young people on our message boards have been in similar situations and could share their thoughts and experiences.

I hope this helps you work out what is the best thing to do.

Take care,

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