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Stress and anxiety

Hi Sam it's Stephanie. I am really stressed about my exams that are coming up and I really need help but I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about it especially my parents. I was wondering if you could give me some advice on what you would do if you was in this situation.

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Hi there,

Exam stress can affect anyone and most people get some nerves before taking an exam. It might feel like you're the only one who's experiencing anxiety, but it’s not unusual to feel this way. Although exam stress is very common, the way you deal with it will be unique to you.

The effects of stress can be different for everyone, although there are signs to watch out for. A change in your sleeping or eating pattern for example or not being able to enjoy things in the same way you normally do.

It can take courage to talk to someone about the anxiety and trying to cope on your own could makes the stress feel worse. Talking can help how you're feeling and it can help you better understand those feelings, so you have a better idea of how to cope with them.

Teachers are there to support you with how you're feeling as well as your school work. They can give you the support that you deserve and even give you some past exam papers to work through to help you know what to expect.

Revision and feeling prepared can help to feel more confident and there are things that you can do to help put a plan together, this includes taking regular breaks and taking care of yourself too as well.

Exams are important although they don’t decide everything. Whatever grades you achieve it’s important to remember that you will always have choices about what to do next.  Usually you'll have the chance to retake exams or do extra qualifications at a later date if you are not able to achieve the grade that you want.

If you feel you need to talk to one of our counsellors we're here to listen and to support you at any time. Sometimes letting off steam can be a great way to relive stress. Our Art box and Mood journal are both good ways of expressing what you're feeling.

Thanks for your letter.

Take care,


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