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Hi C,
Thanks for your message and for telling me what has been happening to you at school. From what youve said, it is understandable that what this guy has been doing is making you feel really uncomfortable. Im really pleased that youve recognised that he has been sexually harassing you and reported this to school. You have the right to go to school without this kind of thing happening. Your parents sound very supportive of you, and its great that you were able to tell them, and then report it. You have taken a huge step towards getting this behaviour stopped, and that was a really brave thing to do.
Youve said that youre scared because this boy knows that youve reported him. I can hear that youre worried he may call you names or say something to you when he sees you. It might be helpful to let your teachers know that you are scared of seeing him round school. School have a duty to protect you from all kinds of bullying and harassment. Perhaps you could explain to the staff that you dont want to sit next to him in lessons. If you are worried about seeing him at break or lunchtimes, you could make a plan for safe places to go, where you wont be on your own. For example, you might be able to go to the library, or to a lunch time club.
You havent told me if you have any friends who know whats been happening. If you do, it might be helpful to ask them to take turns to stay with you while you are at school, so that you are less likely to meet him by yourself. If he says or does anything else to scare or upset you, it is really important to tell an adult straight away.
From what you have said it sounds as though you are trying to make some choices about how to deal with what is going on. Remember that you dont have to face this situation alone. You can talk to a ChildLine counsellor for support at any time. You can contact a ChildLine counsellor, either on the phone or online in 1-2-1 chat. They wont tell you exactly what to do, but they will talk through the options you might have.
Thanks for writing to me,
Take care,
Sam
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