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Hey there,
Thank you for your letter.
The pressures to do well in exams can be very stressful and this can sometimes feel difficult to overcome.
You arent alone in feeling stressed about your AS exams lots of young people feel anxious at exam time. Bottling up stress and trying to deal with it on your own can sometimes make it feel even worse. Im really glad that you decided to write to me.
It sounds like you realise that whats happened is now in the past and theres nothing you can do to change it. However that doesnt make things feel any easier right now as you think about the remainder of your exams.
When we feel anxious we can often give ourselves negative messages. Sometimes you may feel sure that youll end up beating yourself up about the mistakes that you think youve already made. When we hear the same negative messages over and over we can start to believe that theyre true and this can then knock our confidence.
I can hear that youre worried that these negative feelings will impact on the rest of the exams you have left to do. Thinking about what you could do to stay in the present and not worry about what has already happened may help you to feel calmer. We have a page that has some useful tips on homework and revision and another on coping with exam stress which you might find useful. You could also look at our anxiety section.
Picturing how you would like things to go can help you to feel more positive. Perhaps you could try to imagine what it would be like to walk into your exam feeling calm and confident. It can sometimes feel like your whole future depends on the grades that you get but there are always options available to help you to decide what you could do next.
If youre worried that you might need good grades in a particular subject its important to remember that you can probably take it again.
It might be helpful to look at the message boards too theres lots of support around exams and revision and it can really help to read what other young people say in similar situations.
Talking to an adult that you live with or a teacher about how you feel could really help. Your teacher is there to support you and may not be aware of the pressures that you feel.
If you dont feel ready to talk to a teacher or someone that you live with you can speak to a Childline counsellor - either by ringing our free phone number 0800 1111 or having a 1-2-1 chat.
I hope we hear from you again when youre ready.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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