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Hi there,
It sounds like you have been through a really difficult time being bullied at school. It was not okay for that group of girls to treat you that way. No one has the right to bully you.
Being bullied is upsetting and confusing. It can involve experiences that are really scary, like feeling attacked or vulnerable with no way to stop it.
Bullying can also have a big impact on your life, practically as well as emotionally. It can make you want to avoid certain places and people. And it can end up being something that you think about all the time, affecting what you do.
So when the bullying stops and you dont have to fight the bullying anymore, you may find that you start to think more about what youve been through and how its felt.
You may start to feel tired, anxious, upset, angry, sad and negative about yourself and perhaps life in general. These types of feelings may feel difficult to understand as after all the bullying has stopped. But they are completely understandable. Your body and your mind are trying to make sense of what's happened.
You might find it helpful to watch our video about building your confidence back up after bullying.
Its important that you dont keep negative feelings bottled up. Talking about your feelings and your experiences of bulling can help you to come to terms with what happened to you. And this can help you to move on.
Remember that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor. They can talk through what other support might help you to cope with the after effects of bullying.
I hope this helps.
Take care,
Sam
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