Need help straight away?
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
Hi there,
Thanks for your letter. No matter what else might be happening in your life, the most important thing is your wellbeing and safety. Youve got the right to feel safe at home.
Being a young carer for your parents can bring up lots of different feelings. Sometimes it can make you feel isolated. Sometimes it can even make you angry at your parents for not being able to support themselves.
When youre aged 16 to 18, you have the right to move out of home as long as you can move somewhere safe and supported. On a practical level, unfortunately it isnt always possible for a young person to move out when they want to. It might be hard to do this because they cant afford to or they havent got somewhere that they can go.
Social services will often put someone on a Child Protection Plan to help keep you safe and keep the family together. Theyll only ever want to take you out of your home if youre not safe there.
Sometimes when theres been so much history with your family it can feel like its impossible to ever be safe there. Social services are the main people who will help you move out if its not safe. Its important to remember that what you want is a really important part of deciding whats best for the future.
Something to bear in mind is that you dont have to be on the streets to be considered as homeless. If you are at risk of being homeless because of something like not wanting to live with someone who abused you in the past, then you may be able to get extra help. Shelter would be a good place to start when looking into whats available for you. You can also read more about homelessness and running away here.
One of the hardest parts of dealing with social services is that sometimes it can feel like theyre not listening to you. It can make it hard to even want to talk to them about things and mean that you dont get to have a say at all. When youre not feeling heard by social services it can help to speak to an advocate.
An advocate is someone completely outside of social services who is there to help make sure youre being heard. Theyre there to support you with what you want to happen. An organisation called NYAS (National Youth Advocacy Service) has more information on what an advocate is and how they can help you.
Its important to remember that even when youre getting support that change can take time. You deserve to feel supported even while youre waiting for that change though. ChildLine is a safe space that you can talk about absolutely anything.
Whenever things are getting too much at home ChildLine can give you a place to let that out and to think of ways of keeping yourself safe.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.