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Moving in to secondary school


I am moving into secondary school next year and im a bit scared because now im the highest in the school but then i will be the smallest. Also i might be moving house soon and that means my new school is not going to be near my friends . And that means i will have to meet new people , teachers and friends.

Could you just help me getting some corauge ?

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Hi there,

Starting something new can be really scary, but it can also be a good chance to make a fresh start. Overcoming fear of change gets easier the more often you do it, until eventually you may even look forward to new challenges.

Moving to secondary school is something most people are nervous about. You were the oldest but you’re now the youngest and things will be different to your old school. One thing to remember is that you've done this before – you were once the youngest in your old school but over time you got used to it. The same's probably going to happen again at secondary school.

One of the best ways to overcome nerves when starting a new challenge is to try to look at it from a different angle. So far you're focusing on the scary parts, but there are lots of benefits too. Meeting new people and friends can be a bit scary, but you never know who you’re going to meet. Perhaps you’ll start a friendship that'll last the rest of your life or you’ll get to meet people who can introduce you to new hobbies and experiences.

Try making a list of the things that scare you about starting secondary school and why each thing scares you. Understanding what’s making you feel this way can help you to overcome it. After you’ve made that list, make another about the things you’re looking forward to – and try to focus more on those things.

I hope this helps. As always, our counsellors are always ready to listen if you need more support.

Take care.


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