Hi there,
Its really good that you've found the courage to write me as it sounds like you're having a difficult time coping with the move to secondary school. Its good to get support at this time.
A lot of young people have a tough time with the move from primary to secondary school. This is why schools try to help by having transition days. However sometimes this can be really difficult, especially if the older children at the school arent supportive on the day. It sounds like you felt they were targeting you but its likely that they were doing this to everyone. Its important to remember that this happening on transition day doesnt mean it will always be like this.
You've said you don't know how to show them you're tough, but you shouldnt have to. Sometimes trying to do something back can create even more problems. Some young people have told me that it can help to try to look like something hasn't bothered you until you're away from the situation. However, you shouldn't have to do this either and you have the right to ask for support whenever something like this happens.
As well as being there to teach, its also the responsibility of the school staff to keep you safe. It's important that you get some help and support from them when you need it. The people you may be able to turn to for support might be your head of year, your form tutor or someone in pastoral care/student support if your school has this. If you don't get the help you need then you can also ask your parents/carers to speak to school for you, which can help school take it more seriously.
We have some really useful information about how to deal with bullying, and you can find more support on Bullying UK. They also provide help and support to parents as well as young people.
Its really good that you've written to me about this as starting secondary school is a really big change for young people . You're welcome to get support from Childline for any issues you have with this or anything else. You can to a counsellor for free by calling 0800-1111, you can log on for a 1-2-1 chat with a counsellor or you can send an email.
In the meantime, please take care,
Sam
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