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I don’t want to go to college, i want to do my course online.

hi, ive never written one of these before so i guess I’ll just explain, i had planned to start college this september doing a Hairdressing course, i tried to get an apprenticeship however it didn‘t work out. For the last few months i have been getting anxiety alot when i leave the house to meet friends or family or just to go to the shop. I’m trying my best to cope with it. Secondary school was hard for me and thats why i dont want to stay their to do sixth form as i never really liked or felt comfortable in the school-like environment. This leading me to the discussion to aply to college, at the start it seemed like the right choice. i do have very bad anxiety and am a worrier, i tend to overthink sometimes which normally leads me to have a panic attack. I’m sure everyone gets nervous to start College cause its a new place but i now know that i want to do my course from home. One of the problems to that is that Hairdressing isnt a course you can do online, its an active course. I’m scared that i’m going to have to go to college full time and constantly feel anxiety everyday. i really dont wanna go to college but i feel like i dont have a choice, what should i do?

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Hi there,

Making decisions about your future can be stressful and you might feel anxious about making the right choices. There are lots of things to think about and sometimes that can feel overwhelming.

When you’re choosing your options at school or you’ve finished your GCSEs you might feel under pressure to know exactly what you want to do and to find the ideal course or the perfect career.

Sometimes there can be obstacles which can make it difficult to follow a certain path. Not knowing what you want to do is normal but there are people who can speak to for advice.

It can take time to find the best course or career for you. There are lots of options and studying after you turn 16 doesn’t have to be in a college. Online courses and volunteering are alternative ways to gain the experience or qualifications you might need. If you’re interested in a career that’s practical or manual like hairdressing, gardening or bricklaying you’ll need to practise your skills and a placement or apprenticeship might help you do that.

It’s important to get support when something is stopping you from doing what you’re interested in and want to do. It’s natural to feel some anxiety about change and new experiences but when it’s affecting everyday things or you’re having panic attacks you might need extra help.

Learning ways to manage your anxiety can help when feeling scared is stopping you from doing something you want or you feel stuck because you’re finding it hard to take the next step. You could also try talking to a trusted adult or a counsellor at Childline. And the student welfare services at college can support you with anxiety about your course or attending college and help you to settle in. If things don’t improve you can see your doctor for advice too.

Remember, there are positive and negative sides to any decision. When you’re not sure what to do it can help to write a list of all the pros and cons or talk through your choices with someone you trust to help you see things clearly. You can always talk to a Childlin counsellor for support.

I hope this advice has helped.

Take care,


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