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I don't know what to do.

My GCSES start next month and I have done hardly any revision. I am a fairly good student and people are expecting me to do well but I feel like giving up. I would have done more revision these last month's but I'm very slow and I have been having trouble finishing my coarse work for all my subjects. I know if I wanted to and had a bit more time I could do really well in my exams but what's the point. There is nothing I want to be when I'm older and I am not going to spend my life doing paper work. I do love to learn but I swear school is driving me to the mad house. I mean it if I didn't have my mum I wouldn't know what to do. If I'm not depressed I'm very close to it and there is just no point any more of doing these exams. By the way I haven't thought about next year and everyone know is going to interviews. I feel to young for all of this, seriously I haven't even had the heart to get rid of ANY of my toys. All I'm told is to think of a subject I'm interested in but they don't lead to a job I'm interested in. There is no job I'm interested in. I don't know what to do and I have got a lot more to deal with then just this. I tell my mum my head is being riped to part as an a tempt to talk to her but the last time I said it she said that her head was sore too and that I should take a pain killer...
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Hi there,

It’s natural to feel stressed when your GCSE’s are coming up. Finishing coursework and getting organised to start revision can be hard. When you’ve got other difficult things going on in your life, it can feel like you want to give up.

It’s really important to talk to someone you trust about how you feel. It can take a lot of courage to talk about what’s going on, and it might take more than one go to make yourself understood. But it's really worth talking to someone.

Writing down what you want them to know can be a helpful way to start. Perhaps you could leave a note for them to find, or bring them with you as a reminder of what to say.

Often people around you might have their own expectations about what you’ll achieve in your exams, and that can feel like a lot of pressure and exam stress, but there are ways to cope.

Exams can remind us that we're growing up, and it’s natural to find this tough. But remember, you’re not alone. As you grow up you will be expected to make decisions about your future which can be scary. But it can also be exciting.

It’s okay to feel like you don’t have a clear direction or path in mind at the moment. You can take your time to discover your interests and ask others for help.

If you feel like you might have depression, anxiety or any other health problem, visiting your family doctor or GP can be a good way to find out what’s happening for sure. They will have knowledge about treatments and support available to you in your area. DocReady is a great resource for helping to prepare to talk to a doctor about a mental health issue.

Being overwhelmed can make it feel really hard to cope and to work out what to do. Taking deep breaths and finding a quiet time to think about things can help you focus. You might also want to look at the BBC problem solving worksheet which helps to considering the good and bad sides of each option. You can also talk to a counsellor at any time.

Take care,

Sam

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