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I don't know what to do, i am so confused. I had big plans to go to uni and achieve a masters degree and develop my career in Maths, IT and Economics.

I know my results will not be good and I keep telling my parents that I have done alright. Looking at the grade boundaries have made me feel a lot worse. I don't know whats going to happen. I can't distract myself from all this, no matter how hard I try.

How do I tell my parents when I go in tomorrow and tell them I have not got the results to stay in sixth form after they have spent so much money on my education, buying me a whole load of text books and other facilities that I may or may not need.


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Hi there,

It's natural to be anxious and believe we haven't done well in the run up to getting our results. By now, lots of young people will have had their exam results and will be making decisions about the future.

Whether we've done better than expected, or we're disappointed in not getting the grades we need or expected, it can be really tough thinking about the added pressure of what our families and school will think. Your future is really important and it's a good idea to take time to think about what you want to do. But it doesn’t always have to go the way you initially planned or thought, and new ideas and options can open up.

Feeling like you've let people down can be very really hard. Especially if they've helped you by giving up their time and money. You might feel worried or nervous about how the conversation will go. But keeping these thoughts to yourself can make things worse, and it can be helpful to talk about how you feel with someone you trust at home or at school so that they know what's going on for you.

If parents are disappointed, they will also see how disappointed you are and in many cases that will matter more to them than grades. Other parents may take a bit longer to understand how you're feeling, but that shouldn't stop you talking to them.

It can be good to plan ahead, and think about your options if you get the grades you need and other options if you don’t. Exams can be remarked or retaken, you can take other courses or career options. Remember, no matter what exam results you get you still have options.

Talking to a Childline counsellor can help you to make sense of things and look at existing and new options for your future. Other young people are already talking about exams and future plans on the message boards so it can help to see what they are saying and thinking and you can join in as well.

Take care,

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