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Exsam results :(

I am really worried about my exam results i dont think i have done that well and it's really hard when my sister gets A* in every thing. I just feel so stupid and useless compared to her. I am really worried Bout started college as well. HELP!
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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter. I’m glad you felt able to write to me, it seems like you're finding it difficult waiting for your results.

I can hear how hard it feels for you when you think you might not have done very well and it sounds like you might compare yourself to your sister. You have told me that you feel useless and stupid compared to her. It's important to remember that everyone is different and has their own strengths and weaknesses.

Sometimes people do better in their exams than they expected. However, if you don’t get the results that you want, it's important to remember that’s not always as bad as you might think. Talking to your college or school would be a good place to start if that happens, so they can help you to find out what your options are. Here’s our Exam results page, which explains a bit more about what your options could be.

It could be a good idea to think about trying some distractions to help you cope while you are waiting for your results. You might find it useful to have a look at this page, which has some ideas of ways to distract yourself when you are feeling anxious or worried.

You have also told me that you are feeling worried about starting college and I want you to know that most people who are starting this year will be feeling the same way. Leaving the school environment where you have spent a long time can feel distressing and scary. During your life you will experience lots of changes, and moving from school to college is one of them.

You could try using some of the information from our School and college section to help you cope with this change. You might also like to think about whether it’s possible to contact some other people who will be starting your college in September to make some connections before you start. The college website might have some ideas about that.

I hope you have found this letter helpful. If you would like to talk more about any of these worries, you can contact a ChildLine counsellor any time. You can phone them free on 0800 1111, send an email or log on for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care,


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