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Exam stress

I have my exams coming up in a week and I've been revising a lot and I know everything and it's all in my head until I get to the exam and I just panic and I can't remember how to do things and I'm scared because for science we get split into sets that are either double science or triple science depending on how well you do and I have always wanted to be something medical like a doctor or nurse etc but if I don't do so well now and I get put into the double science, it's going to stop me from having that chance and I can't talk to me friends about it because none of them really have any ambitions for the future and I don't know what to do because my brother is a A* student and I don't think I'm ever going to be as good as that and my parents are going to be disappointed :(
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Hi there,

Exams can be really stressful and it’s natural to feel worried about what’s going to happen and the possible consequences. It’s great you’ve been revising and working hard, as this gives you the best possible chance of doing well and achieving the grades you deserve. Exams are important but they don’t decide everything. Find out more about coping with exam stress.

Teachers are there to support you with how you feel as well as your school work, so if you have any worries or are feeling under pressure you can ask them for help with this. There may be some extra support they can give you or you may benefit from some practise exams to help you feel less worried on the day. It may also be helpful for them to know how important this feels for you and your worries about which set you will be put into.

It’s also worth remembering that usually you will have the chance to retake exams or do extra qualifications at a later date. Exams are really important and you should always try to do your best – but there are often many different ways to get into a particular career if your exams don’t go as well as you’d hoped. The National Careers Service website has a lot of really good information about different paths you can take to get specific jobs.

You’ve mentioned your parents being disappointed and this is something that lots of young people worry about. It seems like you are really motivated when it comes to your school work and have been putting a lot of time and effort into your revision and so no matter what results you get in this exam, you have a lot to be really proud of.

It’s important to remember that your school grades and exam results are just one part of all the things that make you who you are. If you want to talk about anything, the ChildLine counsellors are here to support you.

Take care,

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