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don't know what to do

i am 16 years old and i have just started college and i really dont like it at all people have been bullying me since i got there and all the coursework is just gettingon top of me and i go to talk to my mum about it and she always tries to change the subject she never really listen to me and just tells me to keep going without realiseing that i am really not happy there at all. So then i get stressed a lot and i just dont know what to do because it also makes me feel like i want to run away from everyone. 

what should i do

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Sam

Hi there,

Starting at college is a really big part of your life. Sometimes there can be quite a lot of pressure to adjust to all of the changes. This can feel quite overwhelming. It’s really good that you’re asking for support when you feel like you’re struggling.

You’ve been having a tough time since you started college. It’s never okay for anyone to bully you or make you feel like you don’t want to be there. It might be an idea to talk to someone at college about the bullying so you get the support you need.

It’s easy for work to get on top of you and I can see that what your mum is saying to you isn't helping. It might be an idea to think about how you’d like your mum to react to what you want to tell her. Maybe you could even write down what you’d like to say to her. Often adults don’t realise the effects the things they say or do can have on someone else. I think it could be important for you to find a way to let your mum know how you’re feeling.

It can take time to get a balance between your college work and the time you have outside of college. There are different things you can do to help make things feel more manageable and to get the support that you’d like.

Thinking about talking to a tutor at college can feel a bit scary, but they’re there to help and support you, both with your college work and with other issues around college. If you’re not sure who to talk to at college, there might be a student services department. They might be a good place to start and they will be able to talk with you and help you work out what you can do next.

It sounds like there are lots of difficult things making it hard for you to see anything positive now, so you’ve had thoughts of escaping from everyone. I hear from lots of young people as they make the change from school to college. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone with how you’re feeling right now.

Sometimes remembering what you’re working towards and the hard work that it’s taken to get where you are now can help to motivate you. This can help you to see a way forward. You don’t have to do all of this on your own. Deciding to talk about what’s going on is a really big step.

We’re here whenever you need us. You can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor by calling 0800 1111, sending an email or logging on for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care,
Sam

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