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Hello,
Thanks for sending your letter to me and I can hear things have been difficult for you since moving into secondary school.
Sometimes when moving from primary school to secondary school it can take a while to adjust to everything and this is completely normal. For some people it is a time of really big changes and there can be so many new things and people (like teachers) to get used to. You might also find that some of the friendships you had in primary school start to change as well.
If you are finding it difficult to make friends then one thing you could try is to get involved with clubs or events at your school - this can often be a good way of making new friends as you already have something in common with the other people in the group. Chances are there are other people in the new school who are feeling the same way you are and other people like you may be looking for new friends too. Some schools even organise events for new pupils to get to know each other, so this can be worth looking out for or asking about too.
It sounds you feel mum treats you unfairly at times and this is adding to the stress that you are experiencing; it might be an idea to talk to mum about how you are feeling about things at home as she might not realise just how much this is affecting you. There is some more useful information about dealing with family issues in Explore.
I would also encourage you to come and have a chat with one of the counsellors at ChildLine as people often feel better after talking things through with someone. You can get in touch by ringing 0800 1111, requesting a 1-2-1 chat through the website or sending ChildLine an e-mail.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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