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they wreck up my life

my mum and dad fight with each other; verbally and physically abusing each other.

if i tell them to stop it, they turn it all on me! so then its like my mum&dad against me! they shout, scream, swear, and sometimes hit me for no reason.

they also force me to do things that i dont want to do!

so basically i want to run away. i hate it here they are ruining my whole life they always turn against me and i hate them! they havent done anything good for me in my life :'(

im going to run away because i cant take it anymore!!

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Hi there,

Thanks for your letter, it sounds like things are really tough for you with your mum and dad at the moment and you have done really well to write and tell me about it.

You tell me about how your mum and dad argue and fight with each other and it sounds like you get really hurt when you try to stop them. You also tell me that they force you to do things that you don’t want to do. I want you to know that the way your parents are treating you is wrong and they are not allowed to hurt you or force you to do things against your will.

I can hear how unhappy you are living with your parents and you feel like they are ruining your life. You tell me that you want to run away and here at ChildLine we try to keep children and young people safe and so it worries me that if you were to run away you may be in a situation where you are not safe. Perhaps you could talk to one of our counsellors at ChildLine about how you can keep yourself safe.  

It seems like the reason you want to run away is because you want things to change and I’m wondering if you have thought of any other ways that you could try and change things with your parents. Some young people find it helps to tell an adult they trust about what is going on and then that adult can support them in getting help to try to make things change. Perhaps it would be useful to think if there is anyone in your life that you trust and could tell about your situation.

Another good place to get support is to come and talk to one of our counsellors at ChildLine, you can talk to the counsellors about anything and they are here for you 24 hours a day. You can contact them on the phone for free at 0800 1111, by email or on a 1-2-1 chat

Take Care


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