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hi sam i have a question for you. can you help me please cause my mum and dad are constonaly aruging and they are dragging me in to them
what do i do im getting really worried but the thing is that they are getting divorced and that is making it 10 times worse
Hi there,
Thanks for your message. Im sorry to hear that things are difficult for you, it does sound very stressful. It can be really hard to just be around arguments. I hear from lots of young people who tell me how tough it is when parents try to make them take sides.
Sometimes its hard to understand whats going on in other peoples relationships and maybe they havent really explained things to you. You might have a lot of questions or worries about whats happening now and what might happen in the future.
I wonder if you are able to talk to either of them and let them know how you feel? Sometimes adults dont realise how much their behaviour is affecting their children. You could tell them how you feel about being dragged into arguments because thats something that shouldnt be happening.
If you cant talk to them, I wonder if theres another adult who you might be able to tell like a family friend or relative? You can take a look at our page about asking an adult for help for advice about what to say. You can always talk to one of our counsellors about this by calling 0800 1111, sending an email or logging on for a 1-2-1 chat. There is always someone here who will listen to you and support you.
We also have some information about family relationships and divorce that you might find useful. I hope this helps and I hope that things get better for you at home too.
Take care,
Sam
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