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Parent shouts at child

What can you do if your father shouts at you for nearly everything that you do?
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Hi there,

No one should be shouting at you or making you feel unhappy in your own home. Home should be a place where you feel safe and happy. I would like you to know that what’s happening to you is wrong and it is not your fault. As an adult, your dad should know that it is wrong to hurt other people, especially children.

You asked what you can do about your father shouting at you for everything that you do. If you wanted to you could try and speak to your father openly and honestly about the way he is treating you and how it is making you feel. Talking to him face to face might be a good idea. If this is something you would struggle with then you could consider writing him a letter and giving it to him to read.

It might be that your father needs some help from other adults to be able to change his behaviour towards you. You could think about speaking to other adults in your family who may be able to speak to your dad and stop him from shouting at you. You could also consider speaking to a teacher or school counsellor because they have a responsibility to help and support young people.

I would like you to know that if you ever feel that you are not safe or in any risk or danger then you can ring 999 and tell the police what’s happening at home. The police are there to keep you safe.

You’ve taken a really big step by writing to me and I’m really pleased you managed to do this. I hope you will feel able to get more support from ChildLine whenever you need it. You can talk to a counsellor at any time by calling 0800 1111, sending an email or logging on for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care,

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