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Hi there,
It can be really difficult if the way you are treated at home is different to the way your friends are treated. Not being able to take part in plans with friends can leave you feeling isolated and alone. It's wrong for you to be always expected to look after your sisters and not to have any alone time.
With your name change, I know your mum was supportive but your dad wasnt happy so you still had to change it. You can change your name back when you are 18 without your parents permission if you want to do this.
As your mum seemed to understand, maybe you could speak to her about this. You could ask her to sit down with you and your dad to let him know how him being overprotective is making you feel. Ask your mum to support you in the conversation and help you to come up with a compromise that will keep everyone happy. This could be something like you being allowed more freedom as long as your parents know where you are going and you keep in regular contact. Think about what you would like to say before and maybe write things down so you dont forget anything.
Make sure it is a good time to talk for both your mum and dad before you start talking to them. Choose a time your mum is not in a bad mood and both your parents have time to listen. You could start off by asking to be allowed to do something small and build up trust with your dad so you can eventually have more freedom.
It sounds like your mum can take things out on you and she should not be doing this. You could try and speak to her separately about this.
Depression is an illness which can cause you to feel down or sad and can really affect your life. Talking to a doctor will help as they will be able to talk to you about different types of treatment available. If you dont feel you could go alone, you could ask a trusted adult or a friend to go with you.
If you would to talk about this some more you can get support from other young people on our message boards or talk to a ChildLine counsellor.
Take care,
Sam
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