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My parents

my parents have split and now i feel like my life is in shambles.The court orderd that i see my dad every 2 weeks but only for a weekend. i feel so depresed over this due to the short time of seeing my dad . i beleve the matter gets worse because next year i move to secondary school. I do not have the guts to speek to my parents about this issue
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Hi James,

Thanks for your letter. It sounds like you’ve been finding it hard since your parents split up and you feel that your life is in a mess. I can hear that you don’t feel like every other weekend is enough time to spend with your dad and that’s making you depressed.

I’m not sure how going to secondary school will change things for you but it seems like you feel worried about that.

You have said that you don’t have the guts to speak to your parents. It can be really difficult to bring up subjects like this with your parents when you know it hasn’t been easy for anyone. I’m wondering whether you could think of another way to let them know how you feel. You have done a great job writing to me, do you think that maybe you could try and write your parents a letter to let them know how you are feeling?

Perhaps you could also think about whether there is anyone else you might feel able to talk to about this. Is there another family member who would be able to pass on your feelings and concerns to your parents?

You could also talk to a ChildLine counsellor about what this situation is like for you. They would be able to listen, support you and help you to look at what options you have to change things. You can call them free on 0800 1111, use the website to have a 1-2-1 chat or send an email. You might also like to have a look at our Separation and divorce message boards to see how other young people cope when their parents split up.

Take care,


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