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My new little sister and my friends

Well I'm realy afraid to tell mum and dad about this but my new little sister is destroying my life she steals all my attention. Before she was born I loved my lifestyle being an only child; But now I feal like noboady in my house cares about me. I do love my little sister but I also hate her.
I struggle making friends at school last year i found it quite easy I just stuck with my friend from primary school. But ever since she left I've been stuck making friends.
I also get bullied ALOT apparently I have a large head , people always pronounce ( fancy word right! )my name wrong.
What should I do?
Ask Sam


Hi there,

Having a new person join the family is always going to be a big change - especially if you’ve been the only child up to now.

I get the sense that it’s been hard not to blame your sister for taking away the life you had before. It's natural that you are feeling this way but having a new sibling doesn’t mean that you’re any less important.

You might find it helpful to think about talking to someone outside of your family about how you’ve been feeling. Your extended family or even your teachers can help to build up your confidence about how you’re feeling and can help you feel able to talk to your parents.

When you’ve lost a friend who you were comfortable with it can feel like you’re suddenly very alone. It’s not easy feeling like you have to make new friends and when you’re being bullied it can make it even more difficult.

Building your confidence is a really good way to think about making new friends. Confidence doesn’t mean having to change things about yourself, but just feeling able to let yourself see all of your positives.

Bullying for any reason is never okay. Whether it’s making fun of how you look, saying your name wrong or anything else, it’s wrong. Every school has an anti-bullying policy which says how they will protect any child from being bullied.

It’s important to remember that your school always has a duty to make sure you aren’t being bullied. To be able to protect you they need to know what’s happening. You could think about what it would be like if a teacher knew.

I hope this helps you to see that you’re not alone and that there are people who can be there for you.

Take care,


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