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My mum

My mum ust to be a happy nice person but now she is horrible to me she shouts no stop and threatens to hit me.i hAve autism and anxiety so I have panic attack but every time I have them she makes them worse she always says I wish you were like your sister and it makes me very sad she always does it please help Sam
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Hi there,

Having to cope with your anxiety and panic attacks in addition to having your mum acting this way must be very difficult. Living with autism isn’t always easy and it’s very brave of you to ask for help and to talk about how hard things are for you.

What your mum is doing is wrong. Threatening to hit you, shouting and saying she wishes you were more like your sister is emotional abuse. You deserve to feel good about yourself and to be happy the way you are. Everyone is unique and this is really important.

You mentioned that your mum used to be a happy nice person. It sounds like something happened that made her change her attitude towards you. This doesn’t make her behaviour okay, but it seems like she needs help in changing.

You deserve to be treated fairly and to be happy at home. And if your mum isn’t able to provide you with a safe a caring environment at home, it’s important to know that you can get the help you need by talking to our counsellors.

Your safety is very important to us so if you ever feel like your mum could be a danger to you, then you should contact 999 for immediate help.

Well done for taking the brave step to write to me.

Take care,

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