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Hi there,
Thanks for your message.
I can hear how difficult things have been with your family so far this year. It sounds like your mums relationships affect you in a number of ways and youve had to hear and see some upsetting things. Your mum has put you in situations that you didnt want to be in and this has been hard for you to cope with.
You might want to consider being honest with your mum about how all of this is making you feel. It can be hard sometimes for parents to recognise how much their children have been affected by something and it can help to be open about how you feel. You hate it when you hear your mum and her boyfriend sleeping together. This is something you may feel unable to talk to her about, but your feelings are important and you deserve to be taken seriously. If she doesn't know how you feel, things might not get better.
Even if telling your family about how you feel doesnt change the situation, having things out in the open could make you feel better about this. You have spoken to your granddad about what happened, and maybe he could help you explain how you feel to your mum. If you feel you can't talk to anyone in your family, maybe you have a favourite teacher who can support you.
You may want to talk to a ChildLine counsellor directly about what you're going through. There is always someone to listen to you and support you through this tough time.
You can ring the free phone number 0800 11 11, log in for a 1-2-1 chat or send an email.
The divorce and separation section on the ChildLine message boards is another place to get support.
Thanks again for writing to me.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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