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My Mum

I cry all the time because my mum shouts at me when i make a mistake, even if its a small one like i forgot my money and asked her to bring it to me and she swore at me, i sometimes wish my life was over, my dad on the other hand always works, but sometimes at night he hears her shouting, i like christmas and its my faveroutie time of year, but she said that im not getting anything and its cancled, i went shopping yesterday and got all my presnats to im 12 years old and i hate my life.
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Hi there,

Thanks so much for writing to me about this.

You are upset about they way your Mum is treating you. I’m concerned that your Mum is treating you in this way and it’s not alright for her to be this way towards you.  What you’re describing sounds like emotional abuse and it’s not your fault that it’s happening. Nobody has the right to treat anyone in that way, and it can be hard to understand as well as hard to live with. I noticed that you said that your Dad is always working but sometimes he hears what’s happening. For some people writing a note to an adult who they trust (a parent or relative) about what’s going on and how it’s making you feel, can be an important step in letting someone know about what is happening and how you feel.

I’m also really concerned that you’re sometimes feeling like you wish your life was over. When you’re feeling this way, it’s really important to get support. You’ve done really well to contact me and I’m wondering how you’d feeling about speaking to a ChildLine counsellor about what you’re going through. Counsellors can help you to explore your feelings and also support you in thinking of ideas about things that might help.

You explained that you really like Christmas and it sounds as though it is normally a special time of year for you. How do you think it’d feel to talk to your family about what the plans are for Christmas? ChildLine is open every day of the year, so remember that if you need to talk to someone on Christmas Day (as well as any other day) you’re welcome to get in touch through the 1-2-1 chat service and somebody can be there to listen.

Thanks again for taking the time to tell me about what’s happening at home.

Take care,


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