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Hi there,
Its not okay for mum to throw things at you, to say that youre awful, call you fat or make you feel like you arent loved and cared for. When she throws things at you, its physical abuse and when she makes you feel bad about yourself using her words, thats emotional abuse. And both of these things are very wrong.
I can hear that the way things are at home with mum have made you feel really low. From what youve said, it seems like youre self-harming to cope with what things are like. Im not sure how you hurt yourself or whether you have any injuries that you need to care for. Its important to realise that there are others ways to cope with difficult feeling and situations.
When you notice how nice your friends parents are compared to yours, it makes you think about how different your experience is with your own parents. This sounds really upsetting and painful. I dont know whether anyone knows what things are like for you at home or whether youd like to do something about it.
If you wanted to, you could always talk to a teacher or trusted adult at school. Depending on what you decide to tell them, they sometimes have to tell someone (like Social services) whats happening. If that has to happen - and it does depend on each individual case - Social services might want to talk to you and your mum about how things are at home so that they can support you both to try to improve things.
Or, if youd like to talk about it confidentially, you can always talk to a counsellor. You might even find it useful to check out the message boards where other young people may have similar experiences and can offer their support.
Take care,
Sam
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