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my biological father

my biological dad has gotten in contact with me after 13 years of absence.
i want profesional support but i don't know how.
how can i get support
Ask Sam


Hi there,

Thanks for your letter.

You’ve done really well to tell me about your biological dad getting in touch, it seems like it could have been a shock to hear from him after so long. I’m wondering how you feel now that he has got in touch. 13 years is a long time and I imagine you've got used to not having your dad in your life; this could be very confusing for you. This can be a time when you start to ask questions and experience feelings that are difficult to understand. Please remember that you don't have to go through this on your own.

You have recognised that having some professional support might help you to cope and that’s really good to hear. You could talk to a ChildLine counsellor about the support you feel you need, they are always ready to listen and will do their best to help you. You can contact them by phoning free on 0800 1111, sending an email or logging in for a 1-2-1 chat. You can also find helpful information in the Explore section of the website around home and families and other topics too. 

You don’t mention how you became separated from your Dad but you might also find it helpful to take a look the British Association for Adoption and Fostering website. They provide help and support for people who have spent time away from their biological parents for various reasons. They can also recommend other organisations that might be of help for your particular situation.

If you'd like support from other young people who have had a similar experience, why not visit the home and family relationships message board and read what others have said or you might like to start your own thread? I hope this is helpful for you.

Take care,


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