Hi ! Thank you for taking the time to read this! So my mum and dad had an argument today and I'm really upset! My mum hit my dad because he we they were racing in cars and stuff and my dad was going to fast with me in the car! But anyway my mum has packed a suitcase and gone away but I don't know where! I'm really sad and I will probably be crying myself to sleep tonight then putting on a fake smile for school tomorrow ! But my dad said my mum will come back but I'm scared she won't! What shall I do? thank you for the help
Sam
Hi there,
I can hear how sad youre feeling about whats happened. When people we care about arent getting along it can really hurt us. This is especially true when its parents or someone who is there to look after you.
Whatever happens with your mum and dad, its important you know that theres nothing you could have said or done to make them argue. Their relationship is down to them and as adults they are the ones that have to take responsibility for it.
Whats important now is how you cope with things a lot of what happens is out of your control. Just as you couldnt have said anything to make them argue, its going to be difficult for you to say anything that can get them back together. Feeling out of control like this can be frustrating, so one of the things you can do is find ways to take your mind off whats happening. Maybe you could do something you really enjoy or spend time with friends anything that means youre not thinking about your mum and dads arguments.
The other thing you could do is talk to someone. You might want to talk to your parents about how you feel about their arguments, if you feel able to do that. If youd rather not then you could find someone else who you trust and who can listen to you. If youre worried about being upset at school, perhaps you can let a teacher know so that they can make sure you have space if you need it.
ChildLine is always here for you if you wanted to talk to someone just get in touch with us, the counsellors would be more than happy to talk with you.
You might find it useful to look at our family relationships page if you wanted to read some more about coping with this, as well as talking to other people on our message boards.
Take care, Sam
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