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Hi there,
As you grow up its normal for you to start to want more independence in your life. And changing things about your own appearance might be one of those things. This can come naturally to you and lots of other young people too. Your parents are responsible for you so they have to make a decision to give you more freedom. This means that they still get to have a say in what they think you should and shouldnt be doing, even if that sometimes feels unfair.
People often use their appearance as a way to show others what they are like as a person and I can see that this is something important to you. It looks like you have checked to find out what hair colour is appropriate at your school, but ultimately it might be your parents decision. Perhaps this is something youd like to talk to them about again.
Sometimes it can feel difficult when you want someone to know something and are unsure how to tell them. But that doesnt mean that its not possible. Before deciding to talk to someone it can be helpful to plan things out first.
Have a think about a time and a place where youll have some privacy to chat without being interrupted, and where you know youll feel comfortable talking. Choosing a time when you are likely to have plenty of time to talk will also help make things feel less pressured. Try to plan what you want to say. If youre feeling nervous you might want to keep simple.
You might also find it helpful to have a look on our message boards, or even post if you felt able to. Sometimes, talking to someone else you trust can be a good way to get a different perspective on difficult situations.
If it would help to talk more about this, remember you can always talk to a counsellor. Theyre there to give you a space to talk openly about your options and what you feel is best.
Take care,
Sam
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