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Hello,
Everyone needs some privacy when theyre at home. It's natural to want space and time to ourselves. There can often be arguments between young people and parents about how much privacy they should get. Its important that you have your own space with limits on how much other people can see. But at the same time your parents are also responsible for you, so might want to make sure you're okay. This can make things had.
You should feel happy at home. So if youre not happy with the way things are then something needs to change. The first step to bringing about a change like this is talking and saying how you feel. Telling your parents how much your privacy means to you could be the start of a conversation about how unhappy you are and what you would like to change. If you're worried about this, try our tips for being assertive.
It may be that you need to compromise with them. Often when there is an argument, both sides need to give up a bit of ground so that they can meet in the middle. It might be that they will agree to give you more privacy if you agree to be more open and talk about things with them things like contraception and where youll be when you go out.
If you try this and it doesnt work, and you cant see any way to stay at home, then you can consider moving out at 16. But this is a huge step and isnt easy to do. It helps that youre in work but theres a lot of things to consider before moving out it could help you to talk them through with a ChildLine counsellor.
Hope that helps, thanks for your letter.
Take care,
Sam
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