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Hi I*,
Thanks for your letter explaining about your relationship with your mother. You should be very proud of yourself for taking the initiative with this and for being so positive about wanting things at home to change.
It seems like things between you and your mum are difficult. You don't get to spend much time together and this has made you feel that the two of you are drifting apart. Its not clear if there is anyone else who lives with you and your mum or if there are wider family members who you can speak to about this situation. If you do have other family members, they could help you explain your feelings to your mother. This is another option to think about.
You told me that you think if you could spend more time together then she would understand you more and that your relationship would improve. You ask about writing her a letter and Im wondering how you think she might respond to a letter from you. It sounds like she is really busy and you don't get to see her much, so writing a letter could be a good option. You can take your time working on a letter until you feel happy that the end result is as you want it to be. Writing a letter would also mean that your mother can read it and think about what you are saying to her and then work out how she is going to respond to you.
It might be good to include in the letter how you want to get along better and to improve the way things are between you. You could also suggest some ideas of how you would like things to be at home. For example you might want to spend more regular time together to catch up on what's going on for each of you. Maybe there is an activity that you could do together, even if its just going for a walk at the weekend or doing the shopping together.
If you would like to talk things through more, you could contact a counsellor at ChildLine who would listen and support you. You can call on 0800 1111, send an email or log on for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care for now,
Sam
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