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Hi sam

My name is l* and i am 17 years old. I was wondering about what i should do about my parents getting divorced.

The reason i am asking is that i can not stop blameing myself.

Any adice?

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H l*,

I can hear how much this is worrying you, and I'm really pleased you wrote me a letter. People make the decision to get divorced or separated for all sorts of reasons. But whatever the reason, it is never your fault. Your parents may not have realised how you feel and talking to one of them may help you to understand that you're not responsible.

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your parents about it, you could try writing something to let them know how you feel. If you have other family members that you get on well with you could share your worries with them.

When family relationships change, it's completely normal to have worries about what you can do to help. You can try talking to other young people who have been through similar experiences on the Home and Family message board. Here, young people talk and support each other about the issues and feelings you may also be having.

It's important not to keep worries or feelings bottled up, so please remember you can speak to Childline counsellors at any time. You could also have a look on the Divorce Aid website where you can find advice and support.

Take care,


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