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Hi and thanks for getting in touch.
It sounds like J* is really on your mind at the moment, you must be very close to him. Going into foster care is almost always a big change not just for them but for those around that person too.
J*s situation has had a big impact on you and it sounds as though you feel like youve been cut off from him. Sometimes it can take a while before someone becomes settled into where they are living and it might be that J* feels upset about whats happened, until things become easier for him to cope with.
You said that your head teacher suggested you write a letter to J* and this is something we can help think about. You can send ChildLine messages through your inbox which is found inside your ChildLine locker. Perhaps you could send us the message you were going to send to J* and we could help you think about what to say. Or maybe theres someone else who can also help you with that letter?
You also talked about J*s sister and Im wondering if she can help you get in touch with him.
Foster homes and care homes are different for everyone. For some people it can be a difficult experience, but for others it might work out better for them than things were at home. Either way its about how it affects J* and those around him, like you, that counts the most. Maybe you could talk to a ChildLine counsellor about the best ways to cope with your feelings around J* and his situation. You can get in touch by calling 0800 1111 (calls as free) or you can log on for a 1-2-1 chat.
Thanks for getting in touch, wed really like to hear from you again if you want to talk more.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.