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Me and my mum fight all the time now. she always blames me for everything and making me feel worthless. i really want to leave home it makes me that upset. she compairs me to my little sisters and is always saying there better. my mum speaks down to me all the time and compairs me to my friend who a better daughter according to my mum. i can't take this anymore its got to the point where i dont even want to speak to my mum or even be in the same house as her.
please give me some advice soon.
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Hi there,

Thanks for your message.

It sounds like you are going through a really tough time at home as you said that your mum is making you feel worthless. No one should ever make you feel this way and you have the right to feel cared for and protected at home. From what you have mentioned it sounds like your mum is using emotionally abusive language towards you which is really hurtful and it’s understandable that you feel like you’ve had enough.

Emotional abuse is when someone says or does something that makes you feel bad about yourself, or hurts your feelings. Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain but it’s the way it makes you feel that is important. If what your mum says or does makes you scared, sad or upset, that is emotional abuse. No one has the right to abuse you and it shouldn’t be happening.

You have mentioned that it’s now got to the point where you don’t even want to talk to your mum or stay in your own house. It’s really important that you get some support right now. I’m wondering if there is another adult living at home with you? Perhaps you could talk to them about what’s been happening. If not maybe there is a friend’s mum, teacher or even another family member that could support you to get some help to make things better for you at home. Remember, the ChildLine counsellors would be always really happy to hear from you too.

There is a lot of really useful information in the Explore section if you want to read more about Emotional abuse. You could also look at our message boards which have lots more advice from young people.

If you would like to speak to a counsellor at Childline about this remember you can call our helpline on 0800 1111, send an email or log on for a 1-2-1 chat. We really want to support you through this as you don’t deserve to be treated this way. I hope this helps.

Take care,


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