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Hi there,
Relationships with parents often change during your teenage years. Getting more freedom can be a struggle as some parents find it hard to see their children are maturing.
It might help to ask your family what would help them give you more freedom. For example they might want to meet your friends, or be reassured that more freedom wont affect your school work or home chores. You could suggest a months trial period so they can see the likely effects.
Sometimes it can help to get another adult to speak with a parent. This could be a family friend, an adult in the family, or someone at school. Hearing your point of view from someone else can help them see its importance.
Leaving home can seem like a good option when family life is hard but it is important to consider all the practical options. Where would you live and how would you financially support yourself? How could it affect future plans, and how it might affect your family relationships?
Your first option might be staying with friends or family as you could negotiate rent or contributing towards bills. From age 16 you can leave home without parental consent. Have a look at this page for more information on your rights.
Try to think carefully about whether you do want to move out, or whether you would prefer things changed at home so you could still live there. This is a big decision to make so dont rush into anything. Remember you can always talk it over with one of our counsellors.
Take care,
Sam
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