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Hi there,
Thank you for your message.
I can hear that your dad dying was really hard for you to cope with and its natural for things to feel difficult after you lose someone youre really close to. You can always ask for help. You shouldnt be having to cope with these feelings by yourself. You may find it helpful to look at our page on When someone dies for some more information. There's is also a charity called Cruse who support young people coping after a loss.
It seems like since your dad died you have had some other problems and you mentioned that some of your family arent allowed to talk to you. Sometimes people stop family members seeing each other because they want to protect them from being hurt or treated badly. Other times there may have been an argument or misunderstanding which stops families spending time with each other. Whatever has happened, its important that you get the chance to talk about how this makes you feel. If youd like things to be different you can talk to someone you trust about that to see if any changes can be made.
Youve told me that your older brother is abusive. No one should be abusing you or your mum in any way and you deserve to be protected. Youve asked about feeling safe at home and you have the right to feel happy and safe. Its important to tell someone who can help you. It's okay to call 999 if you are in immediate danger.
There may be someone you feel able to talk to about whats been happening and about how you feel. This might be a different family member, a teacher or social worker.
If youre feeling unsure about this and about what might happen, it might feel better to talk things through with a ChildLine counsellor at first. That way you can tell them whats been happening and how you feel, and you could think together about what might help and how you can keep yourself safe.
Big changes can be difficult to cope with but with the right support things can become easier for you.
Take care,
Sam
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