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Hi there,
At Christmas people often spend time with their families, so it can be an emotional time if there have been changes in a family. You deserve to feel happy and comfortable at home. You could think about what you would enjoy doing with your dad on Christmas Day and share those ideas with him before the day. You and your dad may still be able to spend time doing the same things you usually do on Christmas Day. It is good that you're able to talk to both your parents even though things in your family have changed. And this Christmas you may not feel that is for the better.
You've done really well to share your feelings with your family. Its possible that your mum and sister seem like they dont care because they are trying to hide their feelings to avoid upsetting you. Sometimes those close to us do things like this as they don't want to hurt us.
Perhaps if you have other relatives that you still see or feel close to you could talk to them about this. You could use the Christmas and New Year message board to talk to other young people who've already been through a similar experience and find out what helped them cope.
When things change for families, big things like birthdays or Christmas can also change too. And it can be hard to accept that good times from the past might not happen again.
Please remember ChildLine is always here, so if you would like to talk to someone on Christmas Day or any other day you can talk to a counsellor.
Take care,
Sam
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