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Hi my name S* and am 16 years old I just been put in care befor Christmas I get really badly bullied but saying that it not so bad now I try and tell people but it get so bad and they don't understand my mam keeps asking when am comeing back but I am scerd to tell her AM not what should I do ? Xx
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Hi S*

Thanks for getting in touch, it sounds like you’re going through a lot at the moment and you deserve to be supported.

I’m concerned to hear you are getting really badly bullied - that must be really hard for you.  No one has the right to bully you or treat you badly. You’ve done so well to try and tell people but it seems people don’t really understand. 

It can be really frustrating if it feels like people don’t understand. I really hope you don't give up with talking to people, even if you’ve been trying that already. Sometimes it's worth trying to tell people in different ways or talking to someone new. For example, you could try writing down what is happening and show that to someone you trust. There is more advice about bullying on our website that could be helpful for you.

Being put into care is often a big change and it sounds like your mum is putting you in a difficult position by talking about when you’re coming back. It would be important to make sure your social worker knows what your mum is saying and that you let them take care of it for you. It shouldn’t be your responsibility to tell mum things like that.

I wondered if you were interested in talking to other young people who may be going through something similar with bullying or with being in care. The message boards have some really good advice and support if you wanted to take a look at the living in care or the bullying section. We also have more information about what it can be like to live in care here.

I hope this helps. ChildLine is here for you and you can always talk to one of our counsellors for more support. You can phone for free on 0800 11 11, or log in for a 1-2-1 chat.

Take care,

Sam

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