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Hi,My Mum can't accept that my dream career is a model she keeps forcing me to be a lawyer,if I tell her that my dream job is a model she just compares me to other kids saying their better than me what do I do?
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Hi there,

It can be difficult when families have disagreements. Nobody has a right to force or pressure another person into doing anything they don’t want to do. Everyone always has a right to choose their own career path and to make their own decisions about their future.

It’s important to remember that career choices and decisions don’t have to be final. People can always change their career and re-study at any time if they want to learn a new skill or change their career path.

Sometimes it can be worth thinking about ways to calm down an argument or disagreement so that you can keep a positive relationship with the other person. It’s not okay for your mum to make you feel bad by comparing you with other people. It's okay for you to tell her that.

Thinking about what compromises could be made from each side of a disagreement can help two people to meet each other in the middle. An example of this could be working as hard as you can in school and trying your best in any tests or exams. Perhaps a compromise from your mum could be to allow you to try out some modelling in return in your spare time.

Being assertive can help you think about how you explain your feelings and stand up for yourself while still show others respect. Writing things down can be another way to explain all of you thoughts and feelings clearly.

Don’t forget you can also talk to a ChildLine counsellor any time about how all of this is making you feel and what you might like to do next.

Hope some of this helps,
Sam

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