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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Positivity and Pride

Hi Sam. I know this isn't what you usually get, and I fully understand if you don't want to publish this one online, ...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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my school friendship problems.

hi , at school i feel as if nobody notices me . i don't have any proper friends and all the people who i thought were...


hi im 12 and i feel disgusting if i masterbate but i cant stop myself from doing this i watch porn sometimes but i fe...

Me and school situation

im 14 and have been at my secondary school for three years. I’ve chosen my gcse’so i am going into 4th year. In first...

Peer Pressure

Hi Sam, Recently my friends have been trying to get me to do things I'm uncomfortable with such as smoking weed, vapi...

Feeling left out

I have low confidence and my friends are outgoing people. Sometimes I feel left out because they are all laughing and...

Friendships and depression

Hey whoever's reading this, I don't normally do things like this and i feel like i shouldn't be wasting peoples time ...

My Manipulative Best Friend

Hey Sam, I have a 'best friend' at school who is quite manipulative. I met her a year and a bit ago, in my previous s...

Internet friends

hi there recently ive started talking to someoene online and they are my age and we really want to meet up somewhere ...

My deaf friend

Hi sam, I have a deaf friend. She wasn't always deaf because she was my best friend ever since I was little but after...

Bed wetting

Dear Sam, i am 13 years old and have been a bed wetter since I was 8. The doctors have found nothing wrong with me af...

My friend needs a Saviour

My friend has been cutting for a while. I have no clue what to do. I’ve given her everything I could. I feel useless.

Making friends online

Hello Sam, I've noticed that people seem to not understand the concept of an internet friend. If I mention my intern...

My Crush

Hey sam, you see i have a crush on this boy at school. my friends dont really like him though. i dont know what to do...

internet friends

Hi Sam, I am writing to ask you if it is okay to have internet friend. I have over fifty Internet friends that I talk...