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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
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latest letters

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Homosexuality

I come from an asian background, a very traditional one. And, with my luck, my family is very homophobic and don‘t to...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Moved house to a new location

Ive just moved home with my family to a completely new area we have been here for around 3 weeks now and even though ...

Moods.

Hi Sam. I’ve been getting incredibly snappy for my age and I feel like my parents absolutely hate me for it. But I ca...

Abortion

Hi sam, I’ve just gone through an abortion and the after feeling is unreal I’m feeling so down and upset about everyt...

Unsafe at school

I no longer feel safe in school, since there is a boy who is perving on girls, he crawls around trying to look up the...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Best friends

I think that I am taking away a friend from another! And it puts me in a sad and angry way ! What can I do ? Plz help...

Do you have to have friends?

Hello Sam. Having friends has always been hard for me as has most thinks. I like reading the letters other people s...

Cultural/religious differences

Hi Sam Recently i've been feeling really left out from my friends. I am a practising muslim so i dont drink and now ...

Mean girls

I have quite a few friends but three of my closest friends have completly changed. They have turned into complete mea...

Tell a friend my secret??

Hi SamTwo years ago I was hanging out with a group of girls who I no longer han g out with. Basically, I stole someth...

Living on different continents

I met one of my best friends on tumblr, and we have become really close. We talked a lot on tumblr for a while then w...

High school

Dear Sam, I'm going to a different high school than all of my friends I don't know anyone. Everyone says "Oh yo...

Friends

I was talking to my friend today about my Depression issues, I told her everything, how upset ive been, how i wanted ...

Friends

All my friends are skinny and prettey, they always wear the latest out-fits and use the newest phones out, every time...

Trust

I have a lot of friends. Thing is, I don't have friends like other people do, I find it hard to confide and trust the...

Can we ever be friends again?

Hi Sam, I have a problem which can't really be solved I am just looking for some advice. Just under two years ago my...

Friends

Dear sam im not very confident and always do what my friends say sometimes i dont want to do it but im to scared to s...

Pressuring me...

Hi sam, I am 14 in year 10 and have recently been promoted to a prefect. The only problem is that my friends are get...

Secret relationship in class

Today in my class someone told that in our class there are two people which are in a secret relationship , i know who...

Jealousy

Hi Sam, Im really jealous because my friend is dating the boy i like and i dont know what to do please help me

Im loosing my best friends

I have recently moved schools, because i moved house for the 5th time! and i cant help but feel like im loosing my be...

Fitting in

I feel like at school I'm different to everyone and no one really likes me I dont fit in and i can't concentrate. I h...

Fitting in and friends

I am having difficulty at school because I used to and sort of stil do hang around with this group of people who swea...

Religion vs. Boys. What to do?

I'm Asian. Actually, I'm a Sikh. I know this is morally wrong to my faith but I really like this boy. My parents say,...

No boys like me

In my school boys often say if they fancy you. All of my friends have or had a boy fancying them. But not to me. I me...