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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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latest letters

Finding out I had an other dad

on the 1st of june 2018, I got an message over social media from a boy around the age of 21 practically telling me I ...

Struggling relationship

Hi :) so i think i’m pregnant and my boyfriend is saying if i keep it he’s leaving, if i tell my mum i’d get kicked o...

Failed my GCSE's

Hey Sam, I just wanted to say that I failed my GCSE's and didn't get the grade I needed to in order to do what I want...

School loneliness

Hi Sam, I’ve never done one of these before but here it goes. I’m in year 11 at school and I have no friends at all a...

Message from Sam

It can be hard to spot the signs of an abusive relationship, even when you’re in the relationship yourself. I’d be really interested in hearing about harmful relationships in the next few weeks. Remember that I only respond to a few letters each week but I do read all of them.

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Sexting

So i had this boy message me on social media, later he started to send me naked videos of him self.

Boyfriend asks for nudes

Hi Sam, my boyfriend keeps asking if I want to have sex or send him nudes and it makes me feel uncomfortable...

Masturbation and Guilt

Hi Sam, I was wondering, is it normal to Masturbate? I do it every 2 or 3 days and always end up feeling guilty...

I like two people

Hi Sam, I'm a bisexual girl. I'm not ready to tell people yet, but only my online friends know. I'm in a relationship...

sex

I have had sex with a girl and am worried that she is pregnant. I love her but don't want a child. do I pressure her ...

Relationship Trouble

Hi Sam, I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and it's not as good as it was before, and we hardly see each oth...

Dating faculty?

Hello, I am an A level student, once I turn 18 am I allowed to hang out with staff outside school? And if I were to w...

Friend Relationship

Hi, I'm worried that my friend likes me as she has mentioned before that she likes both genders. Also she likes to ha...

Getting contraception

i am 15 years old, not too far away from turning 16 and the boy I am seeing is 16. I am not yet sexually active howev...

Weird feelings about my rapist

So I'm 15 and I was assaulted just over a year ago and weirdly, I feel quite neutral about the incident. Although whe...

Getting over a breakup

Hi sam, A couple of years ago I got into a relationship with who I believed to be the love of my life, my soulmate. W...

Can I go on the pill?

I'm a girl that's 15 years of age. Last year I lost my virginity to my boyfriend (at the time) and since we have brok...

Lied about my age

i'm 16 and i met a guy online and told him I was 18 and he is 19. At first i didn't think it was a big deal because i...

My addiction to pornography.

Hi Sam, About three quarters of a year ago, I was on Instagram and I was scrolling through my feed and found that one...

Having the implant

Hi, I am thinking about having the implant done,I wanted to ask would you tell my parents as I am 14?

it okay

dear sam, I have just found out my boyfriend is gay I don't know how to tell him that im okay with it and I will move...

Sex

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl who has had sex. I had sex a couple of weeks ago and I think I'm pregnan. My question is ...

Sexual abuse in relationships

I was pressured into doing things i didn't want to do with my now ex boyfriend. I tried telling him I didn't want to ...

Turning 16 first

I'm a girl and for a few months now, I have been having sex with a boy in my year. We aren't actually boyfriend and g...

Relationships

Sam, there's a boy who I was seeing for 5 months but we aren't together anymore due to complications and that he isn'...

Boys

Hi SAM, my name is **** and I have a massive problem with some boys. My ex, lets call him Danny, and another boy, let...