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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you.

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

Dad is HIV positive

I have just discovered that my dad is HIV positive - and has been for ages, but he hasn't told me. ​ I don't know if ...

Fixed term exclusion

hi sam, i was excluded for a fixed term in yr 10 i am extremly ashamed of what i did as i was verbally hurtfall to a ...

Sexuality problems

hi sam,this is my first time writing a letter . im a 14 yo boy and im currently in a relationship with a girl who i t...

Transgender

i have always preferred being a girl to a boy and love crossdressing, my parents do not like it. They threaten to tak...

Message from Sam

You can write to me about anything and I read every single letter, but I choose just a few to answer on my page each week. I’m sorry if I don’t answer your letter but I always try and write my response to help anyone with a similar problem, so there is probably a letter that I’ve answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors and they will always be there.

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unsure on how to help

so recently my friend hasn't been herself, and is really emotional and I'm not really sure how to help, she has been ...

My friend was sectioned

One of my closest friend has been sectioned in a mental health unit. They usually only stay for a couple weeks but sh...

bad friend?

my friendtexted me saying how she'd taken a lot of pills and that she doesn't feel right. So naturally I texted her m...

Eating disorder

I found out about a month ago that my best friend had a eating disorder. I noticed suspicious behaviour and eventuall...

My friend's life is all lies!

Dear Sam,I have a friend at school, because I can't tell you her name I'm gonna call her 'Mask'. Mask always seemed l...

Best friend getting hurt

My best friend keeps getting hit by his girlfriend for spending too much time with me. Lets say the boy is called B...

Suicidal Friend

Dear Sam  I have a friend who I used to go to school with before I moved. I got her number and talked to her online...

No idea what to do

Hi My name is H* and i have a problem. One of my friends have died and i, myself, is sad, but i have not taken it as...

Schizophrenia

HI Sam,My best friend J*, has just been diagnosed with Schizohrenia. I am worrried as he has changed alot since i met...

How do I help?

Hey Sam, I have a friend who has been talking about suicide quite often. I have tried to talk her out of some reall...

Friends that self harm

I know 3 people that self harm all of which are male. People don't tend to think males self harm and this has left th...

Anorexia

Hey One of my best friends has apparently (i seen her since and not sure if it is true) recently been diagnosed with...

Stressed and Feeling weak

Hey, I have friend who has depression and a tendency to self harm. The school found out and she was given social hel...

Anorexia

My friend had recently told me that she is suffering from anorexia. Since she told me I can't stop crying, I spent th...

hi

Hello what should i do my bestfriend who ive been friends with for eight years decide she doesnt wanna be friends and...

Help needed!

My friend has recently been acting up, and shes been going crazy in school. She has been suspended now for a week and...

My best friend is depressed

My best friend has been really depressed for the past year. At first, I thought it was just simple low self-esteem, s...

I want to help my friend

I'm 13 I got a friend who doesn't feel love in his life. He said that no one in this world loves him-even his parents...

He says he sees things

MY friend he's 14 yesterday he told me he sees people. I havent seen him for months because ive been off of school du...

out side

hi sam i am worried about my friend j* i called her out to play and she said she was allowed to play out but her mum...

My Best Friend

My best friend is really ill. She's bulimic, anorexic, self harms and is suicidle. I honestly have no idea what to do...