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Anyone can write in with their problem. I respond to a few letters each week. You can also read my advice to people who have similar problems to you. 

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  • Sam reads every letter, but can only respond to a few each week
  • Sam's replies are public, never private, so others can read them
  • Sam will remove personal info from your letter to keep it anonymous
  • if yours is chosen, you'll see it under one of the topics below
  • if you need support now or want to talk privately, contact a counsellor for free on 0800 1111.

latest letters

I need my first bra

Hi Sam, I’m 13- almost 14 and I think it‘s time to ask my mum for a bra but I’m too nervous and I don’t know how to b...

The Summer Holidays!

Hi Sam! I wanted to ask what I can do during the holidays to keep myself sane? The last summer holidays was hell for ...

Long distance/online

this is about a boy i met online through a friend from my school and its been 3 months since we met online and we’ve ...

Homosexuality

I come from an asian background, a very traditional one. And, with my luck, my family is very homophobic and don‘t to...

Sport and confidence

Hi Sam I wanted to write to you as im a bit upset with sport as I go to a club and I dont really fit in as I get lauf...

Message from Sam

I often have a theme that I ask people to write in about but remember that you can still write to me about anything as well. I also want to remind everyone that of the many letters I receive each week I choose just a few to answer on my page. I'm sorry if I don't answer your letter but there is probably a similar letter that I've answered before which might help. If you definitely want a response you can always talk to one of our counsellors.

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Eating disorder

I found out about a month ago that my best friend had a eating disorder. I noticed suspicious behaviour and eventuall...

My friend's life is all lies!

Dear Sam,I have a friend at school, because I can't tell you her name I'm gonna call her 'Mask'. Mask always seemed l...

Best friend getting hurt

My best friend keeps getting hit by his girlfriend for spending too much time with me. Lets say the boy is called B...

Suicidal Friend

Dear Sam  I have a friend who I used to go to school with before I moved. I got her number and talked to her online...

No idea what to do

Hi My name is H* and i have a problem. One of my friends have died and i, myself, is sad, but i have not taken it as...

Schizophrenia

HI Sam,My best friend J*, has just been diagnosed with Schizohrenia. I am worrried as he has changed alot since i met...

How do I help?

Hey Sam, I have a friend who has been talking about suicide quite often. I have tried to talk her out of some reall...

Friends that self harm

I know 3 people that self harm all of which are male. People don't tend to think males self harm and this has left th...

Anorexia

Hey One of my best friends has apparently (i seen her since and not sure if it is true) recently been diagnosed with...

Stressed and Feeling weak

Hey, I have friend who has depression and a tendency to self harm. The school found out and she was given social hel...

Anorexia

My friend had recently told me that she is suffering from anorexia. Since she told me I can't stop crying, I spent th...

hi

Hello what should i do my bestfriend who ive been friends with for eight years decide she doesnt wanna be friends and...

Help needed!

My friend has recently been acting up, and shes been going crazy in school. She has been suspended now for a week and...

My best friend is depressed

My best friend has been really depressed for the past year. At first, I thought it was just simple low self-esteem, s...

I want to help my friend

I'm 13 I got a friend who doesn't feel love in his life. He said that no one in this world loves him-even his parents...

He says he sees things

MY friend he's 14 yesterday he told me he sees people. I havent seen him for months because ive been off of school du...

out side

hi sam i am worried about my friend j* i called her out to play and she said she was allowed to play out but her mum...

My Best Friend

My best friend is really ill. She's bulimic, anorexic, self harms and is suicidle. I honestly have no idea what to do...

Don't want her to get hurt

Recently I discovered one of my good friends (Liley) loves another one of my Best Friends (Hollie) but I know that Ho...

My friend

I've recently discovered a friend of mine has been binging and purging regularly. Although she tells me she's control...

competing! :(

Hi!, I have two great friends! but they sort of compete against which one is the better friend for me i think they a...