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what's wrong?

I'm 15 and my period was missed this month. I'm not saying Im pregnent but it has been a odd worry. I Havnt had sex but after a week of my period being late I did go 2nd with my boyfriend and I know it sounds stupid but I don't know if that triggered anything ( Like anything not pregnancy but something) but it's been on my mind a lot to what is wrong with me, I have lost 15lbs in 2-3 months but I don't excersise  that often , I do have an eating disorder which I have had  for 5 years and my diet recently has been very on and off. would that be a reason for my morning sickness?
so really I am just very confused and slightly worried but I have considered it being to maybe there was his sperm on his fingers when we went 2nd my way? ( which I don't think happened) so why is it so late and should I be worried
thank you
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Hi there,

Thank you for your letter.

I can hear that you’ve been feeling really worried.  I can’t say for certain whether or not you’re pregnant but it is quite rare for somebody to become pregnant without having sex. It seems as though you’re wondering whether sperm could have come in to contact with you when you went to “second base.” I am not sure what you mean by this, as I know that this can mean different things to different young people. For more information about that, you can have a look at our page on pregnancy or go to the Brook website. I’m concerned that you’ve been trying to cope with so much and it seems as though you’re not always eating regular meals. This can have a big impact on how you feel physically. I’m not sure whether or not you’re getting medical support with your eating disorder, but I would always recommend speaking to a doctor to get help with this. You seem as though you’ve lost a lot of weight quickly and it’s important to get medical advice about this as well, so that you can keep safe and healthy. Maybe you could book an appointment to see your doctor about it. Find out more about seeing a doctor and read our information about eating disorders.

Sometimes eating disorders can affect your periods but only a doctor could say for certain. If you’re not sure about visiting your doctor yet, you can also talk to a qualified health professional by dialling 111. You might also find it helpful to look at the eating disorders section on our message boards.

It’s also important to remember that during puberty, periods can be irregular, which means that they don’t always happen when expected. If you feel you could be pregnant, it’s always a good idea to take a test as soon as possible so that you have as many choices as possible. Don’t forget that you’re always welcome to talk to a ChildLine counsellor. They can be there for you whenever you need to talk things through.

You did well to write to me about this and I hope that you get the support you need. 

Take care,

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