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Hi there,
It sounds like the situation with the boy is really confusing. Youve said that he sticks up for you, acts jealously when youre around male friends and that your female friends have noticed his behaviour too. Its never really possible to know what someone is thinking or feeling without talking to them, so I cant tell you if he loves you or not.
It sounds really frustrating for you to not know how he feels and to be unsure about what to do next. I can see from your message that youve thought of two options - ignoring him or talking to him about it. Im not sure how you feel about those options or which of them you think youd rather go with. However, ignoring him sounds like it would mean you never got the answers youre wanting. How would you feel if you didn't know for sure?
Talking to people about feelings can sometimes feel difficult and take some courage. If he does love you, it might be scary for him to tell you, especially if you dont feel the same. So perhaps it would be useful to think about what youd like to say to him before you ask (if thats the option you go with).
Have you ever used the ChildLine message boards at all? Sometimes posting questions there and asking other young people for their opinions can help. Also, you can always get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor on a 1-2-1 chat or a phone call and talk it through. Theyd really want to support you as best they can.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
Take care,
Sam
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