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Hi there,
It can be really hard when someone you care about is having a difficult time and feeling down. And its normal to be unsure about how to help and support them. But you've been a really good friend supporting them with what they're going through.
Sometimes, people feel so low and desperate that they might self-harm or want to end their life. It can hard to understand when a friend does something like this but its really important they know there are people around them for support.
Your friend might find it hard to talk about how they feel or whats going on. This can be because they dont want to make people worry about their problems. Or they might feel its just too hard to put into words. This feeling can sometimes lead to anxiety or them harming themselves.
It can be helpful to tell your friend that youre there for them. Let them know you will listen to them when they feel ready to talk. It can sometimes be a simple as asking your friend how you can help them or asking them if they want to talk.
You could ask if they want to do something they enjoy. It could be something you both normally do or used to do in the past before things changed for your friend.
It's good to encourage your friend to see their counsellor. You could also suggest they talk to a doctor as well.
But you can also help a friend organise a plan for times when they feel really low or alone and feel as though they might harm themselves.
Theres some really helpful advice on coping with self-harm and coping with suicidal feelings that you could show them. Or you could encourage them to talk to a ChildLine counsellor at times like this. Our counsellors can help them understand difficult, negative feelings. It can help them cope with what's going on.
It can be really difficult to help a friend, and its also important to look after yourself. Remember that you can always talk to us about whats going on and how you feel.
Take care,
Sam
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