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I am eleven and i think i am bisexual as i have kissed a girl but i hangout with boys
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Hi there,

Thanks for writing to me about your concerns.

You say that you think you are bisexual because you have kissed a girl but like spending time with boys. It seems like the feelings you have might be confusing for you.

Your sexual orientation is about who you are attracted to, fall in love with and who you want to live your life with. People become aware of their sexual orientation at different times. Some people know when they are very young how they feel and whether they are attracted to boys, girls or both. For other people it might take some time to work it out. It is also sometimes the case that as young people are growing up and going through puberty, their thoughts and feelings change and this leaves them confused about where they stand. This is normal and is all part of finding out who we are.

Perhaps a good way of working things out might be to be patient and be aware of your feelings and sexual urges. Eventually these will show you what your sexual orientation is.

You can read our page about Sexual identity for more advice. You might also like to check out the ChildLine message boards to see what other young people are saying about sexuality. 

If you would like to talk this through with someone in more detail, you could also talk to a counsellor at ChildLine either by phoning them on 0800 1111, logging on for a 1-2-1 chat or by sending them an email.

Take care for now,

Sam

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